We are on vacation.
Hashtag: life; reality; parenting; humor
No rest for the wicked…
Oh, wait. I mean the mommies (smile and wink).
Greetings from La Jolla sunny California!
I am pretty sure I just ate candy my son gave me from his grubby fingers—and I am not sure the last time he washed his hands. Or went to the bathroom and forgot to wash his hands. I am actually gagging a little bit right now. Really. My stomach is not feeling so well. Hashtag “truemom”. EATING NASTY GERMS FROM GRUBBY DIRTY FINGERS. Sigh.
Therefore, let’s just say that I am VERY VERY VERY happy to be celebrating the upcoming day about ME in Poland. Dzien Matki. May 26th. Mother’s Day.
In Poland, Mother’s Day is the same day year after year after year. Kind-of like Women’s Day, Wigilia, your birthday, your anniversary, New Year’s … MOTHER’S DAY! It is set in stone and NEVER GOES AWAY!
Kind of like our kids, eh????!!!! (smile and wink)
Anyhow, this upcoming Mother’s Day I think that I am going to set expectations for my kids:
And number 10 makes up for 1-9.
As I expect it should.
So, you see, Mother’s Day in Poland is really no different than Mother’s Day anywhere else in the world. If you come from a dirt floor or a mansion that touches the sky, being MOM is full of a million and one expectations that always start with DISASTER…But that one moment (#10) will make up for all of the tornadoes that will come in and hijack your day.
In the end, however, you don’t mind. Because it’s a nice feeling. Being mom.
But NOT eating the grubby food from their fingers. Leave that behind on Dzien Matki. I am pretty sure that is not a nice feeling.
Not at all.
Happy Mother’s Day from Poland to YOU!
Today may be a day that is your least favorite day of the year. Mother’s Day.
Maybe you even feel a little guilty for not liking the day because you had an amazing mom.
Perhaps you have siblings, friends, or cousins that are AMAZING moms but you are not a mom.
Perhaps you are not a mom because a baby was just never given to you.
And you feel.
Well, you may not know how to feel but you know that you feel. Deeply.
Perhaps you are not a mom by choice.
Yet your eyes wander the world on this day and see other women celebrated. And this makes you feel.
You don’t know how it makes you feel. But it does.
Perhaps you were a mom and then your babies or children were taken from you. Too soon. And now you, the mom, are a mom forever and always but you don’t have your baby to say on this day, “YOU ARE MY MOM!”
And this makes you feel.
On this day, ladies, all I can say is that every beautiful trait of YOU is wrapped into a beautiful box and displayed with the grandeur of the perfect woman.
You are that woman.
That beautiful treasure that is perfect just the way she is.
A woman who makes our world a more beautiful place.
You make this world a place where I can travel with my daughters and say, “Look! You are perfect for who you are!”
You, dear woman, are the reason that my daughter will walk tall and strong and proud. Because who knows what her one day will hold.
Maybe it will hold children. Maybe it will not. Maybe it will hold a husband. Maybe it will not. Maybe it will hold loss. Maybe it will not.
But when she looks about this world, she needs to see YOU.
She needs to see that one day — SHE IS ENOUGH as the woman that she is. Because she is fearfully and wonderfully made!
So, today, on Mother’s Day, Ladies, I would like to say “Thank you” to you. Because of you, I can point to my daughters and say “Look at this woman and see what she has done! The world is stronger and more creative, beautiful, and kind because of her. Be like her!”
And my daughters will go to bed remembering all that you are…
The woman that makes our world a better place.
Okay—I have an 11-year old. She is diaper free.
Max is nearly 5. He is diaper free.
Josephine is approaching 3 and 1/2. As of last night, she is officially diaper free!
That’s old. You may state.
That’s okay. Another may add.
To both and each their own.
My little 3 year old is hilarious. She has been advanced in walking and talking and eating and singing and bravery and living…
And not in pooping. On the potty.
So much so that she would go for up and past 10 days, sometimes, without plopping a single drop.
One time, her constipation actually made her sick. The doctor said—she just needs to poop. Are you giving her anything to help her poop?
We were. We had tried everything. Foods, drinks, medicines…Bribery. Tears. Pulling out our hair. And she still refused to poop.
Finally we had to goose the girl with a very uncomfortable czopek before she produced the results we needed — and her body immediately began to recover and heal.
Well—finally we were diaper free for pee and since she only pooped every 3-11 days, she would just tell us when she had to go. Easy peasy pudding and pie…
Then our last pull-up disappeared one evening and we were too lazy to run to the store for more.
We cried. (Ours, however, tears of ka-ching in our pockets—NO MORE DIAPER MONEY NEEDED)
And we refused to run and buy her a diaper. Even when she had to potty.
Which, in our lives, was actually a really freaky thing. We didn’t want her to be constipated. We did not want her in pain. We did not want to have to take her to the doctor or give her another czopek (glycerin tablet up the pupa). We just wanted our little gal to be free.
Several days have passed since her last poopy—nerves were beginning in my mommy heart when last night—around 1am, I heard her cry out.
“Mommy, I need to pee!”
I ran into her room, raced her into the bathroom, and there she did. HER FIRST EVER POOPY on the potty.
We immediately woke up daddy. I am not sure he was as thrilled due to the insanely late hour of night—AND TODAY SHE RECEIVED A KINDER EGG!
A surprise for her surprise.
My friends. If your children are a lot like my Josephine and have severe trouble pooping on the potty, please know that you are not alone.
It is a VERY hard road to walk down.
To some, it may seem like just a poop. But to those of us in the situation, it is more that just a poop. It is the health and well-being of our child…as well as sanity of our souls.
Give yourself a break. Give your child a break. And endure with great patience/pain and pray for the poop.
It’s okay to pray for the poop…
Just like it’s okay to cry when diapers are no longer in the budget 😉
Okay, we have had a lot of laughs on this particular blog site about eyebrows. I, alone, am a living, walking, talking, breathing eyebrow failure of a woman. BUT TODAY…today it was all about a lesson my son was teaching my youngest daughter. And, I am willing to bet, it’s a lesson that YOU, AS WELL, didn’t even know 😉
Maxwell (age 4), sitting at our lovely farmhouse renovated table, messy hair, and slightly hoarse morning voice, eating the “talking” cereal with his little sister, GoGo Bean (aka Josephine Diane), looked excitedly at her and proclaimed, “JOSEPHINE!!!!! You’re growing EYEBROWS! Soon you’re going to turn into a MAN!”
And as excited as he was for Josephine to turn into a man, this newfound knowledge did not sit as well with his 3-year-old sister who then proceed to cry, “I DON’T WANT EYEBROWS!”
Entertainment abounds, my friends…
Even in the art of eyebrows!
Okay, seriously…Like I may be 41—but in my mind I am still some smoking hot babe…41 in wisdom, 25 in beauty and 18 in youth!
And then I go to my mirror…and I’m like 41??? 51???? WHO IS THIS WOMAN?!
Reality registers. Oh, yes. It’s me. Brooke Heidi. I know me. I have been me for a whole lotta years now.
Then I go into the other room and fresh out of the shower comes some man. He has a lot of wisdom in his hair—which, in my wife-y opinion, makes him even WAY WAY WAY hotter!
And then he is dressed to the 9. LIKE HIS STYLE IS SO AWESOME. And he is just like, “Who me? Oh, I just got out of the shower. No big deal.”
It’s like a magazine cover walked into my home and here I sit—FEELING 18, THINKING 25 Hot Babe, and LOOKING like the extinct dinosaur.
How is it, Women?
Does anyone else out there have that husband problem—or is it just me?
Now some of you may say, “But, Brooke, you haven’t changed at all.”
STOP RIGHT THERE!
I’m not sure I take that as a compliment anymore.
Have I always been this frumpy? This messy? This wildly out of control?
Has this always been me?
Have I been blind sighted by my own wild imagination?
HAS MY MIRROR BEEN LYING TO ME ALL OF THESE YEARS???
So with those words, I shrug them off and say…
It’s all my husband’s fault.
Isn’t that the mantra of marriage anyway????
(Smile, smile…wink, wink!)
With that humor, I’ll sign off and say HAVE A GREAT DAY!
The true half of crazy (B)
It is currently a very gray and cold season in Poland. When the sun comes out, which is extremely rare these days, Max has to ask, “MOM!!!! What is the sun made out of?!” And Josephine, “Mom, WHAT IS THAT?!”
NOT KIDDING. She literally just asked the other day. I had to explain it was not the moon, it was the actual sun gracing our presence for a moment.
So it’s gray.
Then it’s also cold.
Not -20 F or C. But it’s been hovering in the 20s and early 30s. Obviously that’s F. In C, it’s been about -7 to 0 C.
On top of all of that, Josephine and MOMMY were both so sick this last week. She ran a fever for about 7 days, and my head felt as if it was stuck literally in a bucket of sand. I can’t recall the last time I felt so horrible.
So, needless to say, last week, we were mostly at home.
To make up for a week stuck at home where TV became the literal mother to my children for 24/7, I decided to start going on small daily adventures with Max and Jo.
Yesterday we went to an indoor Botanical Garden. It was okay. Nothing too thrilling, but also warm and had plants and fish and turtles and birds. The vines hanging from ceiling to ground inspired many monkey calls, and we screeched right along with the parrots. So what is merely a “Meh” place came to life with my Littles in their imaginations, making it a grand adventure.
Max and Jo have wanted to see the cartoon SING ever since their sister, Adelyne, told them all about it.
So, today I decided to leave the house for an early morning showing of SING.
What fun! Of course, the cartoon is in Polish, but both of my children don’t seem to mind; therefore, away we went!
The movie—it’s AMAZING. I loved it. It did not go in the direction that I thought it would — now, mind you, I did not see a single preview for it, but I imagined a much more American Idol direction once the fliers were printed and sailed around town…
It was much more somber than that. Hardships and struggles and overcoming were quietly being dealt with throughout the movie.
While fears were being squelched, dreams were also simultaneously being shattered.
And then everything literally falls apart.
Nothing went at all like I had expected.
Well, let me not ruin it for any of you that have yet to see SING. Let me just say, when there came an opportunity for the momma pig to sing, her husband and children watching, I literally began to BAWL.
Not quiet and pretty tears.
I was literally bawling. I was snotting. I had to TAKE OFF MY GLASSES and wipe away the waterfall of tears. I could not stop.
The mother—performing in front of her husband and children. The mother giving it everything she had. The mother LIVING out her dream. And doing it to the BEST of her ability.
The mother taking a risk. The mother — EXCELLING.
Yes, dear people out there.
A mother cartoon pig singing and dancing.
It was too much for me. I am afraid I cried literally ALL of my mascara off my lashes. My blue eyes turning as crystal as the Carribbean’s waters, as they always do when I cry.
To me, this momma pig, she was so much more than an entertainment figure for the little minds. She was the mother in each and every one of us.
The mother stuck in the mundane routine of washing dishes, cleaning clothes, feeding children, working sunrise to sunset.
She was the mother that danced and sang to herself and dreamed in her own imagination.
She was the mother that put absolutely everyone and everything above the very core of her being.
She IS the epitome of that very word MOTHER!
I have been feeling like that momma pig. At home. Stuck. In a sink of bubbles.
And, then, there I was at the theater with these two miraculous littles that I had to physically fight to bring into the world, and I realized that they are the ultimate dream.
I fought SO LONG and SO HARD to even conceive children. And then to get them to enter the world safely was another journey.
I grabbed my son’s hand and held it. His heart beating because my body grew him. His life living because God gave him to me for another day.
Being a woman is hard. Being a mother is hard. Making satisfaction in our souls as both is hard.
And this momma pig brought this pit into my stomach that there lies within each and every one of us a fire and a passion outside of ourselves and our families. Yet, while we are momma to littles, sometimes those other dreams may be put on the side.
But it doesn’t mean they are squelched.
It just means that our priorities are directed differently—straight.
In the meantime, someday is out there where it will be our turn to sing and dance.
And make our littles proud!